Today’s post was written by Teal Dye, Lotus Blooms.
If you tuned in for our last blog, you now know that there is a beautiful boutique in Old Town full of pleasure products and gorgeous lingerie, just waiting for you to explore. So what’s stopping you? If you’re like most of the first-time visitors to Lotus Blooms, you might be a little nervous to saunter on in.
The benefits to visiting a sex store in-person rather than shopping online are vast. For starters, just like in the side mirrors of your car, “objects are larger than they appear” so finding the right toy for your body can prove difficult when scrolling through images. But perhaps the biggest advantage to visiting in-person is the opportunity to speak with someone who knows what they are talking about to steer you in the right direction.
If you’re unsure how to navigate your visit, check out the five things you should know before you come in. It’s our hope that these will give you a better idea of what to expect when you walk in!
1. We don’t think you’re weird!
We’re the ones who work at a sex store, and we think it’s the most amazing job! Everyday people share vulnerable and personal things with us, and we are honored by the trust that our customers have in our ability to help them. So we’re definitely not judging you for coming to visit! Everyone who works at Lotus Blooms is passionate about creating a welcoming, comfortable environment for all people to come learn and explore. We think really cool, classy, awesome people use sex toys.
2. Even if you just want to look, please say hi!
We know that it can feel embarrassing to have a conversation with a stranger about lubricants, vibrators, or lingerie. If all you’re up for is taking a tour of the shop on your own, have at it! It’s super helpful if you let us know when we greet you. A simple, “Hi, it’s my first time in but I’d love to just explore on my own since I’m a little nervous,” goes a long way for us to give you your space. Otherwise, we’re likely to check in a few times.
3. We promise we won’t laugh at you, please don’t laugh at us.
While we love a good giggle and a bad pun like the rest of the world, we also want to make sure we’re maintaining the supportive space for everyone in the store. And, “what’s your biggest dildo” jokes are just not witty or creative anymore. To us, there is a difference between nervously giggling and pointing and laughing at butt plugs. Lots of people like butt plugs- we love them! So please keep in mind that you might be laughing at something that someone else is really into. We wouldn’t want them to feel ashamed just because you are uncomfortable. On a related note, please don’t whop your friend or partner with a crop in the middle of the of the store. We don’t like to be in the business of reprimanding adults. But feel free to practice as much as you like at home 😉
4. The more specific you can be, the better!
The more info you can give us, the better we can help you find exactly what you’re imagining. For example, everyone has a different idea of what “fun” looks like. Maybe using lube is adventurous for you and your partner, or maybe your idea of spicing it up looks more like cuffs and a crop. Plus, we’re never going to assume anything. So, that means that were probably going to ask a few more questions that might seem obvious to you. This might sound like, “When you say ‘down there’ are you referring to your vulva or your butt?”
5. You are not the only one.
We promise! Whatever it is, we’ve heard it before and we are here to help you have fun! Don’t know what a cock ring is, what it does, or why someone would like it? Ask us. Did you pick up one of vibrators but don’t understand it how it works or can’t turn it off- we’ve got the answer! Or are you intrigued by restraints like cuffs or impact play like spanking? We’ve got the perfect toys for you. Maybe your body has changed recently- either due to medication, stress, or aging- and you want a lube to keep things slippery and fun? We’re happy to explain the different options.
Additionally, we often have books that can explain a little more about the type of play you’re interested in. Or, to teach you about your body in a way that’s more affirming than the “don’t have sex or else you’ll get pregnant and die” sex education that most of us got in school.
And now you know what to do when you visit, we can’t wait to see you in the store soon!